Would you change your name?

Your parents name you most likely, but do you like your name? What do you do if you don’t?

My name was given to me by my mother. Vicky. Simple and straight forward. It’s not short for Victoria it is just what it is. For me my name is perfect, because I fell like I match my name because I am just what I am. I can’t be anything but that.
Though I often have to explain it is just as it is and not short for Victoria which gives me a whole different level. In my opinion that is. That and I just really like my name.

What about names how are they structured?
Well in the UK we go by our first name or a hyphenated name such as Elizabeth-James. And then end with our family name. Smith for example.
Other cultures can and are different. Some choose a name instead of their given name such as Naomi instead of Rhuji and others may use their middle name instead of the first name that appears.
I’ve found it’s just polite to ask now days how some one wants to be addressed and if I’m addressed wrongly to not get wound up by it because people make mistakes or are set in habits they were raised with and habits are really hard to change.

So you don’t like your name? Don’t identify with your given name? What then?
Well if you’re a minor then normally you have to discuss this with a family member and/or a psychiatrist. If you are an adult you can change it legally if you want to.
People can dislike their name for many reasons. They do not identify as a male, female or are gender fluid, or maybe non-binary for example. Some may simply just feel like they don’t suit it.

So how can you overcome this dislike for your name?
Maybe you just need to reinvent yourself or think about your name with different connotations. Maybe you do have to to change it legally to something that could be both masculine and feminine. Though if you have a female name and identify as male maybe you change it to the masculine version if there is one or change it to a name you feel comfortable living with.

The fact is names are simply how we identify as individuals. They do not create our identity only we as humans can do that and only we as humans can be accepting of that.

I’d like to make sure that anyone who reads this is aware that I am free to express my opinion and if it does not align with yours I apologise. If I have not understood something properly and incorrectly writing about a subject then please feel free to contact me and explain your point of view. I am always open to a discussion, but that is what it will be, a polite discussion.

I am one individual who happens to like her name and identifies as the gender she was born as, but my overall opinion will always be you are all human no matter what you identify as or like to be called.